Week 7: Grief Group Observations & Hike for Hope!

Amita B -

Hi everyone! Welcome back!

Observations

As part of my research, I’m also doing observations in grief groups as another source of data. I take (mental) notes on what emotions show up—like sadness, anger, and confusion—and how kids of different ages respond. Since I don’t want to make it uncomfortable for the kids by bringing out a notebook or phone during grief night (because they’re in a safe space), I take mental notes and later write them down in a document I’ve created.

Some things I’ve noticed are that there are moments of silence, and sometimes the conversation shifts when talking about their special person. I pay attention to those moments and how they differ between younger kids and teens. I also compare what I observe to what I’ve read in research studies and online resources.

Additionally, I would like to share that one of the most eye-opening parts of this project has been hearing people’s stories. As someone who is still grieving, it’s been powerful to listen to others—especially children—talk about the people they’ve lost. The kindness and vulnerability in these grief groups remind me that even when we feel alone in our grief, we really aren’t.

And lastly, one thing I really admire about Billy’s Place is that every volunteer has lost someone, too. That shared experience makes a big difference. When a kid doesn’t want to speak during a discussion, a volunteer can step in and share their own story. That way, the group isn’t just being led—it’s connected. We’re all part of the conversation, and it helps ease the pressure and anxiety that can come with talking about grief.

Hike for Hope!

Another exciting update: we’re getting ready for the annual Hike for Hope this Saturday! This is a special event that honors loved ones and supports kids who are experiencing grief. It’s a free community event, and I wanted to share it with everyone in case you’d like to attend or spread the word!

This year’s theme is “Riding the Waves of Grief”—a reminder that grief is unpredictable, never linear, and always ongoing. I love this theme! It really resonates with what I’ve felt personally and what I’ve observed in my research: grief comes in waves, not in perfect stages. This idea isn’t often shown in movies or on TV, so I’m glad it’s being highlighted here.

I also really appreciate that this year’s hike is free and open to everyone, which removes the barrier of cost and makes space for more people to participate and feel supported. Grief can feel very isolating—especially in the U.S.—but events like this help rebuild a sense of community and connection right here in the Valley.

Thank you for reading!

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    mihika_g
    Hi Amita - I love what you're doing with your project for the community! What are your next steps, as we approach the final weeks of the program?
    tanay_n
    Hey Amita! Your work in the community and with the upcoming Hike for Hope is so inspiring! I'm curious to know if you've noticed the children becoming more comfortable, even leading discussions, after volunteers have stepped in?
    camille_bennett
    Hi Amita, great reflections. Why do you think it is so important to have counselors and volunteers who have experienced grief themselves lead the groups?
    amita_b
    In the upcoming weeks, I plan to finish up my interviews and analyze my last bits of data! Thanks Mihika!
    amita_b
    Yes, I’ve noticed that when children feel comfortable with the volunteer, there’s a lot of growth. They gain comfort when the volunteer shares similar experiences with them! Thanks for the question, Tanay!
    amita_b
    It’s so important because it’s helpful for kids to feel like they’re not alone. Having someone who has experienced grief themselves allows them to connect on a deeper level. Sharing similar experiences helps create a sense of safety and comfort, making them more open and willing to share. Thanks!

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